WHY-WHAT-STAY: from Cathy Tollefson

Cathy Tollefson from DaughterProject was with us this past weekend. She shared about what she’s doing to prevent human trafficking. Here is a quick summary, plus a short inspirational word from here.

Human Trafficking is one of the fastest growing crimes in Ontario. The average age a girl
trafficked is 12 -14 yrs. We estimate over 3,000 girls were trafficked in Ontario last year. Over 98%
are Canadian girls. A trafficker will make over $300,000.00 per victim, per year, tax free. It is
high profit, low risk, because we don’t even recognize it is happening all around us. These girls
are hidden in plain sight. In Canada it is most often “the boyfriend” trafficker that will groom a
girl. Low value / low self esteem is the number one thing that makes a girl vulnerable to
exploitation. We must empower our girls! We must do all we can to shine a light on this dark
Canadian secret.

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We asked Cathy to leave us with a few encouraging and challenging words. This is a recap of them.

Know Your “Why”
– always remember why The Village exists (and why you exist)
– if you don’t remember your “why” you will loose your focus

Choose Your “What”
– what does God have for you to do?
Joel Houston once said,  “God doesn’t want you to do everything, but he does want you to do something.” And that something is usually right in front of you”
Proverbs 31:8-9…
Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves,
    for the rights of all who are destitute.
Speak up and judge fairly;
    defend the rights of the poor and needy.

“Stay” the Course
– whatever you choose to do, stick with it until it is solved or eradicated
– may it become part of your DNA – who you are not, just what you do
Micah 6:8…
O people, the Lord has told you what is good,
    and this is what he requires of you:
to do what is right, to love mercy,
    and to walk humbly with your God.

Christmas Eve-Eve 2018

Christmas Eve-Eve 2018

What are you doing on Christmas Eve/Eve?

Christmas is here, and in classic Village style we’ll be celebrating on the ‘Eve’ of Christmas Eve! We’ll have something for the whole family! It will be a 59 min gathering with songs, story, a little fun, and one main idea to take home with you and think about over the holidays. And please…stay for the (after) party if you can!

Why Eve/Eve?

Well, the Christmas season is a time to celebrate the birth of Jesus, and how his birth and his life would change the world forever. It’s also a time when we get together with our families and friends, eat (too much) together, and enjoy each others company. We understand that our schedules are very busy, so, in light of that, gathering on the Eve/Eve (23rd) gives us a chance to gather and celebrate before the next Two Big Days roll around. We hope you’ll join us!

Limit-Less (Part 2)

In last week’s conversation we felt like we hit a sweet spot…a bit of a nerve. You can check out the full recap (here). I’m guessing this is because many of us may be tired or burdened. Well of course we are…life is filled with heaviness and energy sucking activities.

(Anyone shut their phone off more, not sleep with it, finish work earlier or on time, etc?)

Well, Limit-Less is a 2 week series. A two sided coin. A two part conversation.

As much as we want to invite and welcome, healthy limits and boundaries, to protect, to nurture, to build us up, to reenergize and fill us…
There are limits…glass ceilings…lids…that others have placed on us, that we even put on ourselves, that inhibit us from doing what we were called and created to do…becoming who were called and created to be.Both Matthew 11 & Genesis 2, the texts we looked at last week, reflect a balance to this equation: Rest & Work. Sit & Serve. Fill-up & Spill out.

Jesus’ words about his yoke, help us see this balance. After all, a yoke is a tool to work efficiently and effectively. And the creation story is a story of creative work, followed by holy and blessed rest.

This is (or should be) our pattern: We work, we run, we influence, we produce, and then we pause, we sabbath, we rest…so we can get back to doing what God has called us to do.

Jesus, in his ministry, showed us time and again, that when he retreated, he emerged ready to serve, to heal, to teach, to do the impossible and change the world.

On this side of the Limit-Less coin…in this mode…in our work, in our calling, in our dreams…don’t let anyone or anything stop you from doing and achieving your good work.

Paul’s words, a pep talk if you will, in 1 Corinthians 9:19-23 should inspire us…
Though I am free and belong to no one, I have made myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possible. To the Jews I became like a Jew, to win the Jews. To those under the law I became like one under the law (though I myself am not under the law), so as to win those under the law. To those not having the law I became like one not having the law (though I am not free from God’s law but am under Christ’s law), so as to win those not having the law. To the weak I became weak, to win the weak. I have become all things to all people so that by all possible means I might save some. I do all this for the sake of the gospel, that I may share in its blessings.

NOTHING WILL LIMIT or STOP me from doing what God has called me to do. RUN like you wanna win.

In Romans 8:37-39, we read Paul’s own inspiration for this drive…
…in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Limits removed. Obstacles taken away. Lids blown off.

The question is…
Who put a lid on your calling? 
Who dropped an obstacle in your path? 
What happened that made you think you couldn’t or shouldn’t or wouldn’t?

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Maybe this OT story will help us here.

1 Samuel 16:1-13

Leading up to chapter 16 we see that…
– Israel had wanted a king like the other nations. A king that wasn’t God. They begged God for this.
– God said ‘fine, I’ll give you Saul’
– Saul does not turn out to be good. He gets things wrong at every turn. Never realizing that leading God’s people is different than leading other nations.
And the Lord regretted that he had made Saul king over Israel. (these words end chapter 15)

From there we reach chapter 16.

The Lord said to Samuel, “How long will you mourn for Saul, since I have rejected him as king over Israel? Fill your horn with oil and be on your way; I am sending you to Jesse of Bethlehem. I have chosen one of his sons to be king.”
But Samuel said, “How can I go? If Saul hears about it, he will kill me.”

  • Samuel is sent on a mission to find a new leader
  • Samuel is afraid (of being killed…or at least he expresses this)
  • Limit #1 = FEAR
  • How many times have we not done what we should, what God would have us do, something that could make a huge difference, because we were afraid?
  • What are we afraid of? Failing? Falling? Embarrassment? “_____________”
  • Don’t let fear stop you from doing what you know you should do.

The Lord said, “Take a heifer with you and say, ‘I have come to sacrifice to the Lord.’ Invite Jesse to the sacrifice, and I will show you what to do. You are to anoint for me the one I indicate.”
Samuel did what the Lord said. When he arrived at Bethlehem, the elders of the town trembled when they met him. They asked, “Do you come in peace?”
Samuel replied, “Yes, in peace; I have come to sacrifice to the Lord. Consecrate yourselves and come to the sacrifice with me.” Then he consecrated Jesse and his sons and invited them to the sacrifice.
When they arrived, Samuel saw Eliab and thought, “Surely the Lord’s anointed stands here before the Lord.”
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”

  • Again, Samuel is on a mission to find a new leader
  • He veers towards what he thinks God wants
    • Age, Ability, Resume, Height, Outer strength and appearance
  • Limit #2 = I’m not ________ enough.
    • Wrong age, not able, too short, too weak, not enough experience,
  • How many times have we not done what we should, what God would have us do, something that could make a huge difference, because we or someone else put a limit or lid on us?
  • Don’t ever let someone else’s lid keep you from where you should be
  • Don’t ever let someone else’s expectations keep you from getting to where God wants you to be
  • Don’t ever let AGE, ABILITY, STATURE, WEALTH, EXPERIENCE, ____________ limit you…
    • And don’t ever put those lids on someone else…
    • (google HDDH Marcus Stroman)

Then Jesse called Abinadab and had him pass in front of Samuel. But Samuel said, “The Lord has not chosen this one either.” Jesse then had Shammah pass by, but Samuel said, “Nor has the Lord chosen this one.” 10 Jesse had seven of his sons pass before Samuel, but Samuel said to him, “The Lord has not chosen these.” 11 So he asked Jesse, “Are these all the sons you have?”
“There is still the youngest,” Jesse answered. “He is tending the sheep.”
Samuel said, “Send for him; we will not sit down until he arrives.”

  • I love this last line
  • We will wait. We will hold on a min or more.
  • Limit #3 = Time…it’s a limit we can’t allow to get in our way
  • Most people miss opportunities simply because they couldn’t wait for the moment to arrive.

12 So he sent for him and had him brought in. He was glowing with health and had a fine appearance and handsome features.
Then the Lord said, “Rise and anoint him; this is the one.”
13 So Samuel took the horn of oil and anointed him in the presence of his brothers, and from that day on the Spirit of the Lord came powerfully upon David.

The beginnings of the story of King David is profound. To think that because of Age, Ability, Height, Time, he could’ve been overlooked. But God wouldn’t let that happen. To him…or to you.

What is limiting you? What’s in your way? What have you allowed to block you?


If we let every obstacle or limit control our destiny, we wouldn’t do or achieve anything.

God does not put limits on us, he takes them off.
God doesn’t put a lid on us, he removes it.
God says, you can do this. You can achieve this. You are called to this. I’ll put my Spirit on you, and you can walk forward in confidence.

Think about how this effects you. And think about how this effects our church community, and what we think God’s challenging us with here?

  • no limits
  • no lids
  • no obstacles
  • keep moving forward
  • keep pushing through
  • keep obeying, and loving, and serving, and giving, and gathering, and scattering, etc.

Will you balance last week’s Rest with this week’s Run? Stop with Go? Asleep with Awake? Limits with No-Limits? Boundaries with Boundless possibilities?

Let these words from Jesus be your final word:

“With God…ALL things are possible…” (Mk 10)

Limit-Less (part 1)

(this short video was shown before the talk started)

Limits. Boundaries. Some people don’t like these two words because they make us feel restricted. Stuck. Constrained. Fenced in. Limited. We see those things as negative…like we’re being held back…or not allowed to experience what is at hand.

But what if we needed, for our health, both physically & spiritually, to be…limited?

On November 1 our seasonal focus changed. The day after Halloween it became, “…the most wonderful time of the year”. If we’re honest, we also know it to be, “…the most busiest time of the year”. We are about to enter into a season where our schedules, our calendars, our eating habits, all go out of whack.

So…in light of that…in preparation for what is to come, perhaps it’s a good idea to address our business, our hurry, the lack of limits in our lives.

Limit-Less. A 2 week series. 2 parts.
– Two sided coin
– Limits (healthy, important, balance, breath)
– No Limits (living your best life, experiencing God’s dream for you, making a huge difference in your life and the life of others)

We tend to be on one side or another. Perhaps we’ve been forced by circumstance to push harder, to do more. Or we may be energized by an opportunity to chase or produce. Or we may be sidelined by difficulty and have no choice but to live inside imposed limits. So we tend to either withdraw completely or go all out with no regard for rest or rhythm.

We must learn to balance both sides of this coin.
– Stop/Go
– Rest/Run
– No/Yes
– Limits/Limitless

God is found on both sides of this coin, but can be lost if we don’t learn to balance the two.

We’re going to start with the one we have most trouble with: Limits & Boundaries.

We are a society that doesn’t know when to stop. I know this is true because as you read that statement, you feel it to be true inside you. We don’t know when to stop eating, stop playing, stop working, stop watching TV, etc. However, our faith calls us to be countercultural – to know when to work hard and to know when to punch the clock – to know when to say yes, and when to say no – to know when to limit ourselves and when to break the lid off and shoot for the sky.

Ecclesiastes 3 says…there is a time for everything

A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to cry and a time to laugh.
A time to grieve and a time to dance.
A time to embrace and a time to turn away.
A time to search and a time to quit searching.
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear and a time to mend.
A time to be quiet and a time to speak.

Let’s look at 3 places in the scripture where limits, rest, and stillness, work to our advantage. Not just because it’s practical, but because it’s godly.

(1) Are you tired & burdened?

Jesus says in Matthew 11:28-30
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Two things are going on in this text. We’re invited to find rest in Jesus, and we’re challenged to admit our tiredness.

Jesus’ rest is a yoke of wisdom and love that unites us to him.

  • a yoke was used to keep the cattle or farm animals centred on what they were doing and where they were going.
  • Jesus says, his yoke is light and pleasant, if you’re walking in the direction he leads, you’ll find rest and joy.
  • The yoke he’s talking about keeps us close to him and him close to us.

It’s like Jesus is saying, you don’t have to do this on your own, attach yourself to me and your burden will lighten. (the words gentle & humble follow this)

That’s the invitation. But what about the challenge?

We actually have to have enough humility to acknowledge that we are tired – that we have burdens – that things are weighing us down. Jesus was directly talking about legalism & religion, but it can be a whole lot more. What is that for you?

What makes you tired these days? What is heavy on your shoulders this season?

Do we have it in us to confess our tiredness, our burdens, our trust in the wrong things, and in turn allow Jesus to give us the rest and peace we so long for?

(2) Do you know how to punch out; to finish what you’re doing?

Right at the start of it all, God is our example of setting limits. He is our example of what it means to hit the pause button, to mark a day-off on the calendar, to rest, to create a finish line and say, “I’m done for now”.

Genesis 2:1-3
Thus the heavens and the earth were completed in all their vast array.
By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work. Then God blessed the seventh day and made it holy, because on it he rested from all the work of creating that he had done.

Take note of 4 words in these verses:
– Finished (x2)
– Rested (x2)
– Blessed & Holy

There seems to be something deeply spiritual about finishing something – something mysteriously beautiful and satisfying about saying, ‘I’m done’. One thing to take away is that completing what you started is always a good thing. However, so is acknowledging that it’s time to punch out. If there is more work to do (or you see it that way) then sometimes you have to create your own finish line and call it a day (or a week).

God finished his work
God rested after he was done
God blessed the seventh day and called his day-off holy

The questions out of this text are…

  • Do you honour the work you do by finishing well?
  • Do you honour yourself and your health by punching out and actually saying, “I’m done”
  • Do you see the blessing and holiness in Sabbath, in rest, in limiting your production?

Sabbath is about ‘not’ producing for a period of time. Not thinking that the world needs you to keep producing that day. Limiting yourself to a set work time, and resting before you get back at it. Reminding yourself that the world doesn’t revolve around your work.

Leaving your worries and anxieties about production, on your desk, and more importantly, on God’s desk.

A few social media posts (tweets) speak to this well. A Rabbi, a Pastor, and a Writer. (this is not a joke I promise)

Shabbat Shalom, y’all. 
May you find rest and joy and connection and hope and the spark of the sacred within yourself sometime in the next 25 hours.
You are good and holy for who you are, intrinsically, not because of what you make or produce.
(rabbi danya ruttenburg, sabbathmanifesto.com)

In a culture with so much noise, chaos, and clutter, we must create space to hear God’s voice. Embrace solitude and silence. Learn to breathe, listen, sabbath, and pray. If Jesus took some to retreat for prayer and silence, how much more do we need it in our lives. (Eugene Cho)

It takes courage to say yes to rest and play, in a culture where exhaustion is seen as a status symbol. (Brene Brown)

Think about Sabbath like this…
Less stuff, more stories.
Less clutter, more adventures.
Less debt, more freedom.
Less things, more experiences.
Less busyness, more time.
Less consumption, more creativity.
Less stress, more joy.

So what do we do about this? How do we set healthy limits in our lives that give us the energy to do the good things we are called to do?


Use your calendar wisely and well.
– Mark out times to pause, to stop, to rest, to be present, to listen, to not speak, to unplug.

Shut off your phone.
– This is a problem with all of us in some way, shape or form.
– Phone usage stats are unbelievably high (150 home button touches a day, 2500 touches total a day, 70% sleep with their phone close to them, 90% respond to text messages within 3 min)
– Read this Globe & Mail article “I gave up my smart phone”
– Consider the cell phone sleeping bag

Learn to say no & yes to the right things

Take some kind of Sabbath
– Don’t be religious about it, but be wise about it. Create a finish line for you work or productivity.

Be aware of the limits that are already in place but we ignore
– Natural (day light), Physical (strength/tired), Mental (awareness level), Relational, Spiritual (we can only grow one day at a time)

So…you may remember that I said there were three places in scripture we would go to. Here’s the last one.

“Be Still and know that I am God” (Ps 46:10)

If you want to know God…Be Still. Stop. Pause. Listen. Wait. Be quiet.

Finally, Try this prayer…

God, give us the courage to leave some things undone today. 
Give us discernment to walk away from useless conflict. 
Give us strength in stillness. 
May we know that our belovedness isn’t in what we do, or say, or finish, or prove.
Help us be brave enough to rest.
In Jesus name (the one who took time to pray, rest, sleep, and be alone)

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small(er) group discussion questions:

“We are a society that doesn’t know when to stop”. Does that ring true for you? Why? What do you have a hard time saying no to?

Why do people fear limits & boundaries?

We look at 3 places of scripture where limits and rest are welcomed. Let’s discuss them.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30)
– what are you hearing and seeing in this text?
– how can we combine the invitation to rest, with the challenge to confess our tiredness & burdens?

Thus the heavens and the earth were completed in all their vast array.
By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work.Then God blessed the seventh day and made it holy, because on it he rested from all the work of creating that he had done.
(Genesis 2:1-3)
– what do you hear in this text, about God and about you?
– how do you feel about the 4 words: finished, rested, blessed & holy?
– how realistic is it to follow some kind of sabbath?

How are we doing with: Calendars? Smart Phones? Intentional & Purposeful rest? Saying yes and no to the right things? Being Still (Psalm 46)?

Pray the final prayer together (slowly).